Danzante Caldera, RPC

A World Without Before/After

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The quote below hit me with the stroke of a little paradigm shift. I suddenly wondered, “Wow, how much of my earlier life had I spent thinking of myself as a Before Photo?”

Fat People are Not
Before Photos
— Jessica Hinkel, Body-Positivity Activist

How many times had I looked at Self and wondered what would I look like in the After Photos? This struck me as such a life of striving, just to find the place where loving oneself is the natural and joyous thing to do.

It is a wonderful to thing, to give up the Before and the After, to love oneself in the Now, with zest, and verve, and the right to do so…

I would suspect most of us have an After Photo in our head – the promise of what it will be like when we finally achieve the body - or the hair, or the style or the whatever-it-is  that sometimes make each of us feel “not good enough” – of our dreams, that magical day when all our problems will be solved by whatever is the desired change.

But what if you gave this duality up, the Before/After. What if you remembered that this very moment – Here.In.The.Now. – is the time you have been waiting for, the time you get to fall in love with your life? What if you decided there was no reason to waste one more minute waiting around for the someday of After?

Growth and change are inevitable, a gift of being alive. Sometimes, growth and change are difficult, unattractive, uncomfortable – and sometimes oour well-being, even our lives depend on this growth and change. So target goals are a good thing, and the source of so much of our inspiration and sense of purpose.

But how much stronger would you be if your growth were only borne in the joy of your healthy self-appreciation, as you are? No more self-image struggles formed in the duality of Before/After.

This is shifting the focus, living out of your strength, and not your limitations… Change that comes from loving your self to the core, here, now, will create the change that will rejuvenate and re-inspire you for the long haul. 

You are a child of the universe,
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.
— Max Ehrmann, The Desiderata